Many people who struggle with people-pleasing believe there's something wrong with them. They tell themselves: "I'm too nice." "I care too much what people think." "I just need to learn to be more assertive." While boundaries and assertiveness can certainly help, these explanations often miss something important. For many individuals with a history of trauma, people-pleasing isn't simply a personality trait. It's a survival strategy. More specifically, it can be a form of wha